Restored & Refined

Hi, I’m Kayla!
I am a wife, a mother, and a woman who has walked through the kind of fire most marriages do not survive…
and yet, by the grace of God, I am still here:

still standing, still believing, still refining;
and now, ready to share my journey and testimony.

My marriage, not even a decade old, has weathered storms many couples never speak about out loud.
Stings of infidelity, emotional disconnect, financial strain, silence, distance, fear, shame, 
and seasons where we felt more like strangers living under the same roof than two people in covenant.

This space wasn’t created to point fingers, defend actions, or unload mistakes just to feel better.
It was created to honorably and truthfully show what God can do in the most hopeless situations.

The truth is… the downfall of my marriage was not one-sided.
It wasn’t “him versus me.”
We both contributed.
We both fell short.
We both needed God.

But.. the collapse wasn’t the end.
It was the beginning of an incredible, unimaginable testimony.

And not just for my marriage, but also for me as a woman.

God has been restoring and refining me into the woman He is creating me to be.
The transformation is still unfolding.
If it weren’t for the deep valleys, the heavy moments, and the places where I simply had nothing left to try on my own,
I would have never sought God the way I do now.
Those humbling moments drew me closer to Him, and that’s where the real restoration began.

And while my marriage is still a work in progress, I am no longer discouraged by the process.
As I wait and trust God to continue His work within my marriage,
I am embracing who He is shaping me to become in the meantime;
a softer, wiser, more grounded, more refined woman.

Now, not only do I desire to share my story,
I want to testify and be an example of what it looks like to become a refined woman
while still truthfully walking through restoration.

And surprisingly?
Restoration has not been miserable.
It’s been beautiful, gentle, & necessary. 

I want to encourage women to begin their own journey of healing, restoring, and refining.
As wives, I want us to remember that marriage carries a purpose far deeper than our happiness.
God honors marriage, and according to the book of Hosea,
God is always prepared to restore a marriage and the hearts within it.

Through my journey, God has been revealing the vision and purpose He placed on my heart for my life and my marriage.
This blog is a part of that purpose; a space where my story, my faith, and my refinement can speak to women who are walking through their own valleys.

I pray that as you read, you feel seen, strengthened, and reminded of this truth:

If God can restore me… He can restore you too.